http://stomastomata.com Everything you need to know about stoma and stomata. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 18:34:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 http://stomastomata.com/about-stomata#comment-81 admin Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:47:42 +0000 http://stomastomata.com/?page_id=2#comment-81 I must tell you that there isn't a right thing you can say to them to make them completely forget about this. Anything you say it seems not that credible especially in your brother's eyes, because he is the one that is going to have the operation. I remember it was really hard for me to accept this fact . There is one thing though that made me feel better. Just think that this operation gives your brother a chance to live, it is a life-giver and it is a good thing. Keep encouraging both your mother and your brother and all will be fine in the end, he will accept his condition and with minor changes in his day to day life will be able to function as before. Good luck and be strong for them, he is lucky to have a brother that cares enough to learn more about this in order to help him. I must tell you that there isn’t a right thing you can say to them to make them completely forget about this. Anything you say it seems not that credible especially in your brother’s eyes, because he is the one that is going to have the operation. I remember it was really hard for me to accept this fact . There is one thing though that made me feel better. Just think that this operation gives your brother a chance to live, it is a life-giver and it is a good thing. Keep encouraging both your mother and your brother and all will be fine in the end, he will accept his condition and with minor changes in his day to day life will be able to function as before.
Good luck and be strong for them, he is lucky to have a brother that cares enough to learn more about this in order to help him.

]]> http://stomastomata.com/about-stomata#comment-70 Meytoh Fri, 13 Jun 2008 11:38:54 +0000 http://stomastomata.com/?page_id=2#comment-70 Thank you for sharing your experience. My brother has just learned that he must undergo a colostomy for severe Crohns and colitis. He is terrified. And my mother is traumatized. I have told her that he's not dying, he's alive and can recover from this, that many people do. However, to them, it's as though I'm being unrealistically optimistic. I don't see it this way. I think he will recover, get used to the colostomy bag, and enjoy his family, and his life, perhaps with even less pain than he now experiences. In this challenging time, what do you think I should say to my brother, and my mother? What are the right things to say? My mother is behaving as though he has terminal cancer, and that he is dying. Again, I don't feel this way - but her behaviour causes to me to be more worried. (That's why I sought out the facts). Thanks for any advice you can give. Thank you for sharing your experience. My brother has just learned that he must undergo a colostomy for severe Crohns and colitis. He is terrified. And my mother is traumatized. I have told her that he’s not dying, he’s alive and can recover from this, that many people do. However, to them, it’s as though I’m being unrealistically optimistic. I don’t see it this way. I think he will recover, get used to the colostomy bag, and enjoy his family, and his life, perhaps with even less pain than he now experiences. In this challenging time, what do you think I should say to my brother, and my mother? What are the right things to say? My mother is behaving as though he has terminal cancer, and that he is dying. Again, I don’t feel this way - but her behaviour causes to me to be more worried. (That’s why I sought out the facts). Thanks for any advice you can give.

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